**This was originally intended to be the basis of a book. The first several paragraphs of this post will be as dry as anything you can imagine. It will get more interesting, I promise. Well, only if you find extreme misogynistic fetishes interesting. And even if you don’t find it interesting–you will likely find it salacious and titilating. And who doesn’t want to be titilated?
This is my first post since I’ve started interacting online with a man who I will call, Jack. Jack responded to a post that I made on an app that allows its users to remain anonymous while posting, responding and chatting with each within the platform. I had decided a while back that I wanted to explore online misogyny within the context of anonymous, highly personal/sexual one-on-one interactions. Yup, you can take the girl out of academia… .
It’s not nearly as dry and technical as it sounds. Even if it were being used as an academic exercise, the best I could ever hope for would be very subjective, qualitative research that held little to no validity/reliability outside of the narrow parameters of these particular individuals.
Plus, if I’m being entirely honest, my methods would never, in a million years, withstand IRB (internal review board) scrutiny for human subjects research. That would require me to ask permission to interview my subjects after identifying myself as a person doing research. And that is not exactly how things went down.
To access the people I was hoping to speak with, I posted that I was looking for anonymous, sexual hookups. I wasn’t prepared for the sheer volumes of responses that I received–and will readily admit that this method of gathering interview subjects was a colossal mistake. And that is putting it mildly. Basically, it brought out every type of person that you could possibly imagine, including Jack.
Jack is a white male, age 45, who claims to have a cuckold fetish. For those of you unfamiliar with the term, he receives sexual gratification from observing (or being told about) his female sexual partner’s unfaithfulness.
Throughout our correspondence, he kept emphasizing that it was his dream to have, “a slut for a wife”. He also claimed that he makes a million dollars a year at his job in finance. I tell you this because he seems to like to use his money as bait in hopes of pitting one greedy woman against other greedy women. His hook is that he wants so badly to get married and care for his “slutty wife”–and I believe that he holds this out as a means of keeping women around and interested. He admits that he is having a very difficult time finding a suitable wife because he tends to attract, “drug addicted gold diggers and hookers”. Because who could have seen that coming, right?
**Stay tuned for more of Jack’s story in my next post. It is certainly worth the wait.
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